Lois McMaster Bujold's "The Sharing Knife" series

Looks like there will be 4 books, although only the first 3 have been published so far, this series is both an excellent high fantasy story and one that presents some good examples of how to form healthy relationships, both stressing to never lie to your SO and the fact that if you can solve a problem generally you can dig down and solve what's causing the problem to be a problem. Very well done most of the time although I think at times you can tell the author gets bored and pays less attention to certain aspects of the book then she could.

Excellent series across the board, if you're looking for realistic high fantasy I really recommend it.